Archives for February 2014

Tuesday, February 25th, 2014

reasons to have a best friend

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We all hear young girls talk about their BFF’s and how quick it is for them to fall in and out of BFF relationships.  I am featuring this as a Tuesday Time for Mom post as having a best friend is part of the time you can give back to yourself.   It is time away from kids, work, partners and our daily chores to just be you!

I don’t think that your best friends have to be people you have known for a long time or went to college with.  As our lives change so do we and we could develop new friends along the way.   I am lucky to have 4 best friends who entered my life over the course of the last 3 years and I am not sure how I would have survived many challenging times without them.  Here are some reasons I think you should have a best friend/s.

1. Support: best friends give you support no matter what you are going through.  They will be a sounding board and will not judge.

2. Honesty: they will let you know exactly what they think even if its not what you want to hear.  This could be your latest hair color looking awful or how you messed up disciplining your child.  The best thing is the advice they give you will always be something that is to your benefit.

3. Laughter: most of the times I am with my best friends we are laughing. This could be at ourselves, our lives, our husbands or just the way of the world.  I always leave them feeling great.

4. Effortless:  with best friends you don’t have to try.  These are the relationships that just are and will be great even when you are having a horrible day – you can be yourself.  Best Friends accept us as we are and will always stay true.

So, I count myself blessed to have great best friends – thank you Lisa, Shannon, Leah and Rebecca.

When you have true best friends you will feel amazing and as the infamous Dr. Seuss says you will know that ” In my world, everyone’s a pony and they all eat rainbows and poop butterflies!”

 

Monday, February 24th, 2014

5 superpowers moms would love to have

Thinking about the name of my blog which focuses on all moms being superheroes everyday, I thought about asking some moms if they could have an actual superpower what would they want.  Here are the top 5.  Feel free to add what you would want your superpower to be.

1. Flying: it is amazing how many moms all want to fly.  This was the most popular super power – I guess we are all so tired of traffic and it taking so long to get from one place to the other.  Or, maybe its just the price of airline tickets!!Super Momma

2. Being in 2 places at the same time.  What I am hoping moms are thinking is that they could be having some down time at the same time they are getting through those to do lists we all have.

3. Endless energy.  Nothing more needs to be said about this one…

4. Being able to twitch our nose like in “Bewitched” and make anything happen.  When one of my friends mentioned this I had a laugh and then agreed that would really be great.

5. Super human strength.  That would be amazing!

What was interesting is that some superpowers were never mentioned like being invisible, x-ray vision, super hearing or sight.  The main powers moms were looking for was to help them manage their busy days.  I wonder if I had to ask some dads the same question what would they say. Definitely an idea for another blog – stay tuned!

 

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Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

remembering what takes your breathe away

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This Tuesday I thought of having moms think back to moments that have taken your breath away.   Do you remember the last time you saw the perfect pink sky?  Maybe you were on a trail walk and came to a bend in the path when the views were something you had never seen before.  These moments don’t have to be in nature, it could be when you see your significant other all dressed up and across a crowded room.  Or for a split second before your 5 year old gets on the school bus, he turns and says Mom, I love you.

So, here’s a challenge.  Think about it and when it happens, when that moment happens when something takes your breath away – take time to enjoy it.  We all need to live in the now more, it allows us to really cherish everything that is around us every day.

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away.” – Hilary Cooper

 

Friday, February 14th, 2014

Friday Reflections

I am trying out a new feature and having a blog post each Friday about reflections from the week.  Hope you enjoy reading them and I always welcome any reflections you have coming out of your week.

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A few reflections for this week:

– becoming a stay at home mom means I do have to just allow things to happen some days

– connecting with other blogs through networks like SITS Girls is great

– as much as my mom drives me crazy I miss her whenever I see a picture of her

– its okay to give your kids pizza for lunch and burgers for dinner as long as there are carrots on the side

– I love taking an hour each morning to blog from Starbucks with a chai latte and an oatmeal (I am doing it right now)

– Sex and the City reruns can be watched over and over and over

– I am not creative when it comes to thinking about different crafts even though I make myself believe that I am

– 3 months ago I never thought my life would be where it is today but I love every minute of it!

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Monday, February 10th, 2014

how a mom of 5 finds time for herself

Monica is a very good friend of mine and a mom of 5 great kids ranging in age from 5 to 14.  I have always admired her and how she always makes time for girls night outs, cooking groups, Spanish classes, time with her husband, alone time and spending quality time with her kids.  Does she have some secret superpower that most of us don’t know about?  I had to find out and so last week over coffee and delicious croissants I interviewed her and was actually fascinated by her responses.

BeFunky_balance.jpgUnlike me, who thinks I need to make sure I schedule time for myself and really think about what am I going to do and where and how etc. Monica doesn’t do any of this.  She prioritizes her life and at the top of the list are her kids, husband and herself.  Making sure that her house is 100% spotless all the time is probably not on the top of the list.  Monica tends to be more easy going and so if someone calls her up to go out for lunch, a walk or try a cooking class she does it.  It wasn’t about over thinking everything and scheduling time but she did make it happen.

So, is there a right and wrong way of finding balance and making time for yourself in this very busy world?  Do you have to be more flexible and easy going or do you have to schedule the time?  I don’t think its one way or the other.   While I was kind of envious about Monica’s easy going approach and flexibility,  I am not sure I would ever be able to become that person.  My perfectionist, type A personality requires structure and so while I am going to try to be a bit more spontaneous, taking time for myself will probably require some planning.

What I hope you take away from this blog post is that everyone can have balance.  It does not matter what type of personality you have, whether you have 1 child or 5 or whether you are a stay at home mom or a working mom.  Just figure out what works for you and make it happen!

 

Tuesday, February 4th, 2014

next steps in the transition to a stay at home mom

This is my first week as a stay at home mom and it is an interesting transition.  To wake up and not have to first check emails or to be able to go out with the kids and not rush back because of a meeting is great.

I do think that as much as I know this is the best change for me, I still need to keep on some type of a schedule and with some structure.  So, this is my list which I am hoping will help me through this transition.  I will check in with you in a couple of weeks and let you know how it’s going!!

mynextstep.jpg1. Take time to decompress.  Working in a stressful corporate environment takes a lot out of a person.  Instead of jumping into the next activity to keep busy, I am taking time to decompress.

2. Time for myself.  Linked to number one, even though the kids are my first priority I am making sure that I have time put aside for myself each week without the kids.

3. Don’t become a couch potato!  One can get so caught up in a great show on TV and then not wanting to miss the entire series – I need to make sure this does not happen

4. Interact with others.  Making an effort to connect with other stay at home parents and grown ups – hopefully leading to conversations other than only parenting.

5. Staying fit.  I am actually looking forward to being able to walk every morning at a time that suits me.

6. Not overdoing volunteer sign-ups.  Don’t get me wrong volunteering at school events is important but there needs to be some balance or this could consume your life!

7. Don’t make every day yoga pants day.  I don’t have to go into an office or meet anyone but that doesn’t mean it’s an excuse not to blow-dry my hair and get dressed!  Yoga pants every day may be comfortable but lets not make that happen 7 days a week.

8. Get out of the house.  Writing a blog doesn’t have to happen at home.  Some days I plan on going to a coffee shop or sitting in the park while working.

For those of you that are stay at home moms, I would love to hear some ideas from you.  So please share them!

 

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Sunday, February 2nd, 2014

Personal Renewal Groups – empowering, supportive, nurturing

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You are invited to join a Personal Renewal Group in Austin taking place the 4th Sunday of each month from 4-6pm.  Based on the award-winning book “The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal, How to Reclain, Rejuvenate and Re-balance Your Life,” by Renee Trudeau, a PRG is a structured life coaching program for women at all life stages.  Topics will include:

– Reconnecting with Who You Are

– Strategies and Insights for Balance Living

– Managing Our Energy, Saying “No” and Asking for Help

– The Transformative Power of Self-Care

– Reclaiming Adventure and Unleashing Your Creativity

Class sizes will be kept small so make sure to email me as soon as possible to reserve your space – mysupermomadventures@gmail.com.

Looking forward to hearing from you as you take your first step to reconnecting with who you are.