Archives for March 2016

Tuesday, March 15th, 2016

6 kids have this to say about the U.S. elections…

We all know that our kids listen to everything we say and often their opinions are created from a combined view of what they hear at home and what they see on television or online.  Now, I really try to avoid getting into politics on social media but how can we not avoid the political scene happening in the U.S. right now.  One encouraging aspect of it is that our kids are starting to pay more attention to the upcoming elections, who is in the running and even asking questions about what the difference between the candidates are.

In a recent carpool I was doing with 6 kids in the car – all girls ages 10-11 and my 7-year old son, it was fascinating to hear their views.  Firstly, they started the conversation completely on their own with one kid asking, who would you vote for in the elections.  These are the responses:

I would not vote for Donald Trump he is crazy.

I hate Donald Trump, what’s wrong with him.

And….his hair is weird (that was my 7- year old son)

I would vote for Hillary because we should have a female president.

But don’t you think our first female president should be a good female president?dreamstime_xs_27169053

Well, I think she is awesome and all women should vote for her.

I was born outside of the U.S. and we’re Muslim so if Donald Trump wins we would have to leave.

Really?  Is that really true?

Yes – she’s right – that’s what I heard as well.  If you are not from the U.S. and you believe in Islam you have to leave.

No one likes him, I don’t understand why is he on TV all the time and who are all these people voting for him?

I still think we should all vote for Hillary, she is going to be great as a president.

I don’t think she is and I will only vote for a female president when there is a good one.  We should vote for Bernie Sanders instead.

Yeah, my mom is a Republican but now she has to vote for Sanders because there is no one else.

Republicans don’t care about everyday people.

I don’t know about that but I don’t think our country is ready for a female president (this is from a 10-year old girl!!).

Okay, you guys are all boring me, who wants to go for ice-cream (my 7- year old again…).

Yes!!!  Ice-cream …..

And we are back to what 10 year olds would normally talk about – friends at school, having a sleepover and what are you doing for your birthday.

Here’s the thing – does this 5 minute conversation with 10-11 year old kids really sound so different from what we actually hear on the news everyday!   Do you know what your kids would say?  As our kids are becoming more intrigued and interested in the elections should we be talking to them about it more?  Should schools be playing a part in this?  Or do we keep politics at home like we are supposed to do with religion?

Why not ask your kids tonight what do they think about the elections, what have they heard, do they talk about it with their friends.  Here’s a tip – don’t say anything just let the conversation happen between them (obviously, that’s if you have more than 1 kid). Trust me,  it will be a dinner conversation you will always remember.

 

 

 

 

Monday, March 7th, 2016

never too late to take a different road…

No matter where you are in the world – summer is either coming to an end or spring is about to start- either way a new season is starting and the world around us is to starting to change once again.  This could be a perfect time for you to consider what you really would want to be doing in life right now and what is stopping you.  The road you are on could be steady and safe and filled with family, friends and love. But, is there something you have thought about trying but didn’t have the courage to do it?   A career change?  A start of a new fitness program? Maybe even starting a blog?  Have your friends all told you that you were really good at something and you could make a business or career out of it? What is stopping you?  We so easily fall into our routine and it’s predictable and keeps up moving from one day to another.  When did we stop living life to the fullest, full of all the adventure we wanted.  Waking up with excitement of a new day and new beginnings – stepping out of routine.

If you can’t make the big change right now, why not start small. Research what would you need to do to adapt the journey you are currently on.  Is there anything you can do while still continuing on your current path?   Sometimes that’s all it takes, the first step on that new road.IMG_0396

I know of 65 year-old woman finishing her Masters,  stay at home moms who have become fitness consultants and a corporate executive with a love for nature, started volunteering at a park. Small or big steps – you can always change the road you are on.  Supermoms, take the risk, have the courage, look at the road ahead and decide do you want to stay on the current course or venture off to a new horizon.

 

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Wednesday, March 2nd, 2016

learning to say no…

Are you one of those people who tend to always explain your actions – why you shop a certain way, why you have to say no to something, why you threw your kid an over the top birthday party, why you don’t want to go out with the girls on Thursday night….  Have you ever asked yourself why do you do this?  Why do you have a need to justify your actions?  I’m not a therapist and I would not do justice to any theories that I am sure exits as to why you have a need to constantly be explaining your actions.  Instead, this blog post will simply be about why just saying no is a great thing to do.

Saying NO can be very liberating and there should not be any guilt associated with it not do you have to explain why you can’t do something.  It does not matter whether it is a school activity, car pooling, looking after someone’s kids, hosting a play day or doing a group activity – if you do not want to do something you don’t have to and that’s it. No reasons need to be given to anyone.  The result is you will start creating time for yourself.   Time for you to just be.  When did you last have time to just be?  Just remember that saying no to many things you don’t actually want to be doing, allows you to say yes to the one thing you really want to do.  Why not start making a list of all the things you have wanted to do but told yourself you don’t have time for.  You will now have that time!IMG_3820

You don’t owe anyone any explanations – your time belongs to you and people will have their opinions of you regardless of what you do or don’t do.  We tell our kids to be confident and steadfast in decisions they make and to not base their decisions on what others think – well, shouldn’t we do the same thing?  Those little people in our lives are always looking at how we behave and they mirror what they see.  Being strong and determined in the decisions we make and allowing time for ourselves is being a positive role model for them.  So, Supermoms, I encourage you to let your cape fly in the wind and continue making decisions that make you feel liberated, free and more like yourself. Trust me, you will not regret saying no!