Wednesday, March 2nd, 2016

learning to say no…

Are you one of those people who tend to always explain your actions – why you shop a certain way, why you have to say no to something, why you threw your kid an over the top birthday party, why you don’t want to go out with the girls on Thursday night….  Have you ever asked yourself why do you do this?  Why do you have a need to justify your actions?  I’m not a therapist and I would not do justice to any theories that I am sure exits as to why you have a need to constantly be explaining your actions.  Instead, this blog post will simply be about why just saying no is a great thing to do.

Saying NO can be very liberating and there should not be any guilt associated with it not do you have to explain why you can’t do something.  It does not matter whether it is a school activity, car pooling, looking after someone’s kids, hosting a play day or doing a group activity – if you do not want to do something you don’t have to and that’s it. No reasons need to be given to anyone.  The result is you will start creating time for yourself.   Time for you to just be.  When did you last have time to just be?  Just remember that saying no to many things you don’t actually want to be doing, allows you to say yes to the one thing you really want to do.  Why not start making a list of all the things you have wanted to do but told yourself you don’t have time for.  You will now have that time!IMG_3820

You don’t owe anyone any explanations – your time belongs to you and people will have their opinions of you regardless of what you do or don’t do.  We tell our kids to be confident and steadfast in decisions they make and to not base their decisions on what others think – well, shouldn’t we do the same thing?  Those little people in our lives are always looking at how we behave and they mirror what they see.  Being strong and determined in the decisions we make and allowing time for ourselves is being a positive role model for them.  So, Supermoms, I encourage you to let your cape fly in the wind and continue making decisions that make you feel liberated, free and more like yourself. Trust me, you will not regret saying no!

 

Comments

  1. JoAnne says:

    When I say no, I realize that means I’m saying yes to what’s most important to me!! :) Thanks for your insights!

  2. Stacey says:

    Thank you for sharing! Saying no can be really hard. I’m in a situation right now where I’m being asked to help with something I’m really not interested in and I’ve been trying to think of reasons why it would be okay to say no. But you’re right, it’s okay to say no because I need that time for other things, even if it’s just having a tea party with my daughter!

  3. Megan says:

    LOVE THIS POST! I need to say no more often.. also need to not say sorry so much!