Monday, February 8th, 2016

technology gone crazy….

I have always considered myself tech savvy but have realized this can get so out of control. In my always going to online for everything I have managed to set up different blog pages, websites and social media sites. In my effort to make 2017 all about focusing on what I want do and doing it well, the realization of needing to streamline all of this hit me.  So, this will be the only blog I am posting to.  I know it will mean me losing some followers on the different sites I have but for my own sanity I am admitting I have a tech problem!!!  So, stay tuned on Supermom Adventures from here on for all the tips, fun stories, interviews with moms and just random thoughts of the day!

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Monday, February 8th, 2016

balance in saying “lets go” and starting a new adventure

My family and I took a huge leap 4 years ago and moved from South Africa to the U.S. and it was the best decision we ever made.  Has the thought crossed your mind?  Finding a job in another country, continuing your education etc.  A friend of mine made the decision as well and moved to the Netherlands.  Here is her story of adventure.

Lee-Ann’s hubby woke up one morning before his 39th birthday and said, “I want to go and do a full time MBA (in the Netherlands)”.  The adventurous Lee-Ann smiled and said “Let’s go!”

And so their new life began and yes they did have challenges especially with a 4 year old daughter and new born son in tow.  Her daughter had to go to an all Dutch school and she had never spoken Dutch before.  As a mom, Lee-Ann worried about her but as most kids do she adapted and in 6 months was fluent in Dutch.  This amazing mom has been able to work from home and has taken to the local culture of cycling everywhere.  Yes, she picks up the kids on her bike and then does the normal home stuff we all do – dinner etc.

While it sounds all fantastic, Lee-Ann does point out that moving to a new country with little ones is not for sissies.  She was also used to the comforts of life in South Africa, having someone to help with the cooking, cleaning and childcare.   You have to rely on others and to ask for help.  I have to agree with Lee-Ann on this, my survival in Texas was mainly due to the amazing friends and support system I found.  Let’s also not forget missing the beautiful South African weather!  Finding balance is very much about asking for help when you need it.

Lee-Ann and her family have flourished and she has met amazing people in what she calls the “mellow city of Amsterdam”.  Parents around her take time to find balance and even CEO’s take a “Papa dag” – a day off to spend time being a dad.

The advice Lee-Ann would give another mom thinking of taking the leap “Just do it! I have been in and out of airports with two small children.  And look, I am no superwoman.  Kids are incredibly adaptable and the life-skills you give them through travel are invaluable.  This adventure has opened many new doors for us and I am so grateful!”

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Monday, February 8th, 2016

are you living life to the fullest

Post from a year ago – I recently lost my older brother very unexpectedly and the hurt and sadness was so deep and so painful.  He was an amazing person, a great dad, husband and uncle to my kids.  What happened at his funeral and in the days that followed was so uplifting.  His wife and I received so many emails, Facebook messages, texts, calls etc. from people who not only were shocked by the news but also shared with us how he has touched their lives.   Each person had a story to share.

His funeral was a mix of being extremely sad and then laughing as each person remembered him as someone who lived life to the fullest.  He did so many things, helped so many people and traveled to so many places that many of us would only dream of.

I haven’t posted a blog this entire week because I have been trying to get some meaning coming out of the grief.  My life has been forever affected and there will be a broken part that I don’t think will ever heal.  My brother always gave me the most sound advice and I have finally realized the message he wants me to hear is the importance of living life to the fullest.  He has left a legacy of being a good guy but also someone who lived each day to the fullest.  I know I don’t do that and I am sure so many of us don’t either.  We get caught up in the daily grind and cycle of kids, chores, work etc. and we forget to laugh, to cherish the simple moments of happiness.  Each of us owe it to ourselves to not allow a sad moment or loss to make us realize we need to be living in the moment.  Just for this week, try it and I am sure you will feel lighter and full of love.

Rest in peace my beloved brother Nadir,  I will love you forever.  At least I know my baby boy Mohammed now has someone to make him laugh in heaven.

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Monday, September 8th, 2014

what gets you out of bed in the morning

I know we all have to physically get up in the morning, whether it is getting ready for work or getting the kids out the door for school.  This is why we get up but what is your actual drive.  When you open your eyes in the morning do you look forward to the day ahead and maybe there is that special something that drives you to want to start the day.

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It becomes so easy for us to get stuck in our routines every day and I am not saying that they are not great routines.  Maybe with the change of seasons – Fall in some places and Spring starting in other parts of the world, this could be an ideal time to really reflect on our drive, happiness levels and what would make us have that bounce in our step again.

 

Is it loving the work you do or knowing you are making a real difference in your kids’ life.  Could it be the thought of the walk you are going to take in the fresh morning sunlight or maybe meeting some great friends for lunch.

 

So, here’s my challenge to your.  Take 10 minutes this week and just think about it.  Do you know what gets you out of bed in the morning?  It’s not too late to find out.

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Saturday, September 6th, 2014

around the world and back again

That’s how I feel – this year has been full of so many changes that I do think I started off in one place, looped all over but have finally settled.  And, it is a great feeling to know where you want to be physically and emotionally.  We have recently moved to a wonderful little village outside Rochester, called Pittsford.  It has been a nightmare of a move and more stressful than our move 3 years ago from South Africa to Austin.

After going back and forth with so many ideas and passions of what I want to do I asked myself a few questions:

  • what makes me really happy
  • what do I not want to be doing
  • how do I want to be spending my days
  • what are my priorities
  • what are my strengths

So, it ends up that I do love writing and family is still number one for me.  I also know I have a natural ability to organize everything and actually enjoy doing it BUT this doesn’t mean that self-care isn’t important.  My blog will continue and so will my Personal Renewal Groups but I am also doing workshops for moms on being more organized.  All in all its a little bit of everything and a lot of happiness on my end!!  The sky is definitely looking clearer :-).

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Wednesday, March 26th, 2014

back again with new adventures

I have been on a hiatus from my blog for the past 3 weeks with so much happening.  Ignoring my blog was not my intention but as you know life happens and we need to just stop and focus on what we can do for that moment.

There are great things ahead for me this year and I will make sure to share them with you as my journey continues.  The near horizon has moving in sight as well as some exciting consulting opportunities and a business venture.   I guess I should have known that being a stay at home mom and not doing anything else wouldn’t last long!!

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Tuesday, March 4th, 2014

women’s day – a time for all moms to celebrate

Having been a working mom for many years and recently taking the leap into being a stay at home mom, I have to wonder is the other side really what I thought it would be like.   Being a working mom I envied the SAHM who got to spend so much time with their kids and didn’t have the stress of deadlines and always feeling like you never really had time for yourself.  I saw those moms as the lucky ones, the ones who had all the time in the world to work out, cook amazing dinners for their families and have real quality time with their kids.  Now, don’t get me wrong I did enjoy what I did but that other world of being a SAHM seemed intriguing.  I could never understand stay at home moms who said their days were so busy and that didn’t get a lot done.  Really – how was this possible when they had BeFunky_womens-day_1100011696-1013int.jpg
an entire day to do what they want?

 

After being a SAHM for the past month I definitely see the world differently and have to acknowledge that days are very busy.  Where do those hours go between getting the kids on the school bus and picking them up?  I am enjoying being at home and love the time I have to blog but it really is a busy day.  Yes, I do have more time for trail walks, lunch with my girlfriends and not being on email 10 hours a day but I now understand what many of those moms meant.

I am not sure if there is a secret war between us stay at home moms and working moms but what I can say having been on both sides is that neither is perfect.  You have to figure out what works for you, what makes you happy and where your passions are.   March 8th is International Women’s Day, a day for women to stand together and ensure the future for young girls is bright.  So  here’s to all the moms – whether you are a SAHM or Working Mom you really are all inspirational and you all make a difference to those around you.

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Tuesday, February 25th, 2014

reasons to have a best friend

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We all hear young girls talk about their BFF’s and how quick it is for them to fall in and out of BFF relationships.  I am featuring this as a Tuesday Time for Mom post as having a best friend is part of the time you can give back to yourself.   It is time away from kids, work, partners and our daily chores to just be you!

I don’t think that your best friends have to be people you have known for a long time or went to college with.  As our lives change so do we and we could develop new friends along the way.   I am lucky to have 4 best friends who entered my life over the course of the last 3 years and I am not sure how I would have survived many challenging times without them.  Here are some reasons I think you should have a best friend/s.

1. Support: best friends give you support no matter what you are going through.  They will be a sounding board and will not judge.

2. Honesty: they will let you know exactly what they think even if its not what you want to hear.  This could be your latest hair color looking awful or how you messed up disciplining your child.  The best thing is the advice they give you will always be something that is to your benefit.

3. Laughter: most of the times I am with my best friends we are laughing. This could be at ourselves, our lives, our husbands or just the way of the world.  I always leave them feeling great.

4. Effortless:  with best friends you don’t have to try.  These are the relationships that just are and will be great even when you are having a horrible day – you can be yourself.  Best Friends accept us as we are and will always stay true.

So, I count myself blessed to have great best friends – thank you Lisa, Shannon, Leah and Rebecca.

When you have true best friends you will feel amazing and as the infamous Dr. Seuss says you will know that ” In my world, everyone’s a pony and they all eat rainbows and poop butterflies!”

 

Monday, February 24th, 2014

5 superpowers moms would love to have

Thinking about the name of my blog which focuses on all moms being superheroes everyday, I thought about asking some moms if they could have an actual superpower what would they want.  Here are the top 5.  Feel free to add what you would want your superpower to be.

1. Flying: it is amazing how many moms all want to fly.  This was the most popular super power – I guess we are all so tired of traffic and it taking so long to get from one place to the other.  Or, maybe its just the price of airline tickets!!Super Momma

2. Being in 2 places at the same time.  What I am hoping moms are thinking is that they could be having some down time at the same time they are getting through those to do lists we all have.

3. Endless energy.  Nothing more needs to be said about this one…

4. Being able to twitch our nose like in “Bewitched” and make anything happen.  When one of my friends mentioned this I had a laugh and then agreed that would really be great.

5. Super human strength.  That would be amazing!

What was interesting is that some superpowers were never mentioned like being invisible, x-ray vision, super hearing or sight.  The main powers moms were looking for was to help them manage their busy days.  I wonder if I had to ask some dads the same question what would they say. Definitely an idea for another blog – stay tuned!

 

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Tuesday, February 18th, 2014

remembering what takes your breathe away

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This Tuesday I thought of having moms think back to moments that have taken your breath away.   Do you remember the last time you saw the perfect pink sky?  Maybe you were on a trail walk and came to a bend in the path when the views were something you had never seen before.  These moments don’t have to be in nature, it could be when you see your significant other all dressed up and across a crowded room.  Or for a split second before your 5 year old gets on the school bus, he turns and says Mom, I love you.

So, here’s a challenge.  Think about it and when it happens, when that moment happens when something takes your breath away – take time to enjoy it.  We all need to live in the now more, it allows us to really cherish everything that is around us every day.

“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away.” – Hilary Cooper